Today I turned 67. With major health challenge, I am beginning to see the finishing line in the horizon.
I started to muse about what I truly value at the end of the day when the race of life is over.
Guess what? The 3 Fs came to mind – Faith, Family & Friends.
For me, these 3 Fs gives the greatest sense of meaning, purpose and fulfillment in life.
In the end what matters is our faith – believing Jesus is with us, has been with us and will be with us forever in glory.
At the end, what really counts is not the riches we accumulated but the righteousness imputed by our merciful Savior Jesus whom we serve and worship.
By the end of life, I would have to say as with the apostle Paul:
“But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ.What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ — the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith” (Philippians 3:7-9).
I treasure my faith.
I value also my family.
I have seen it – the one thing that affords the dying the greatest comfort is having family members around their deathbed.
Family ties are always the lasting value at the end of the day. There can be no deeper serenity than having your spouse, children and family members around you when you breathe your last. I have witnessed the peace, calm and tranquility when loved ones held the hands of their departing beloved, said their parting words of love and sing a hymn commending their loved one to God.
It is very saddening to see family members drifted away in emotional and geographical distances. You have sacrificed so much for your children to ensure their wellbeing and secure their future. But now when life is fleeting they are not around. That’s most heartbreaking. That renders life so meaningless and purposeless at the end of it.
Besides family, I also value my friends.
I feel good friends are lasting relationships that one ought to treasure. They bring meaningful, joyous and enriching gratification throughout our life. Often we share with them our happiest moments, our deepest struggles and darkest secrets. True friends are soul mates in the journey of life. They are there when you needed someone to listen to you, to give you an encouraging word and lend you a helping hand.
People with good, caring and supportive friends are very blessed.
Conversely, those who are rich in things but poor in friends are the loneliest like Zacchaeus (in Luke 19:1-10).
The Bible says in Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” These are lasting relationships. They are often our greatest source of joy, healing and encouragement.
My apology if I sounded morbid in my musing.
But when looking back at 67 and looking beyond, the 3 things I truly value and treasure are my faith, family and friends.
To all who are 67, join me to praise God in Psalm 67
“God be merciful to us and bless us,
and cause His face to shine upon us” (v. 1).